Thoughts Lead To Appreciation
From Umm Sulaim, Allah’s slave-woman to Abdul-Malik. Peace be on whoever follows Guidance.
Searching for a suitable spouse is like sifting flour contaminated with talc. Afar, he appeals, then … One entertains proposals, even makes some, however, … Still alone and unattached.
Prior to my former marriage, some men used to make sport of me for being a tom boy. It has been three and a half years since the divorce, yet no one has troubled me concerning my status. That might be linked to the events during the divorce.
I desire marriage. Not the ill-conceived perception of a lasting relationship, but one which consists of compatibility, love, concern and trust.
The first is the only genuine prerequisite. However, one has to feel at ease with one’s spouse. Hence trust is also essential, even when one is not so well-acquainted with the other. Love appears in the heart before the proposal, after the discussion, after the viewing or during matrimony. Care and concern are sentiments, as well as deeds and become manifest, particularly, when interest has been declared.
What am I, then, required to do when I am in the process of negotiating with a suitor on fresh grounds, although the past lingers in my memory? Well, as I said, we have started afresh. And, I intend to judge him only by his current actions.
Besides, I have given a brother the job of finding Mulla 14th Century.
My brother, you need the assistance of those who genuinely care to locate others who also genuinely care.
May Allah bestow on you in abundance those who genuinely care. Aamiin!!
The recipient was Abdul-Malik also known as John Walker Lindh.
Sent: 10:59 hours, Monday 12th, Jumada Al-Akhirah, 1427
[First week of July, 2006]