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WOMEN LIFESTYLE: Nonexistent Sanctions

There are egregious levels of concerted efforts among some Muslims and their imams at installing as many prohibitions as possible over the lifestyle of women.

In circumstances where a legal prohibition occurs in the Sharee’ah, Muslims insist on the derivation of universal prohibitions.

Frequently, the Words of Allah and that of His Messenger are taken in isolation and out of context to arrive at misleading conclusions that censure women’s freedoms.

Moreover, in cases where a prohibition does not exist, Muslims institute a ban.

Yet, in mundane matters for instance, such derivations or analogies would be unthinkable, except in a few cases that often involve harm or health risks.

For instance, gold and silver are prohibited at least for men. Would anyone make a prohibitive analogy to encompass diamond, platinum, ruby, sapphire, etc?

Another illustration is the ban on penetrative sexual intercourse while fasting. Are kissing, fondling, caressing equally haram? Of course not.


1) SHAREE’AH – A widow may [1] not leave her home during the months of iddah.

CULTURE – Contemporary Muslims have constituted themselves as a harassment committee to ensure a widow does not leave her home at all, except for occasions approved by the committee.

Plus some Muslims distort the Sharee’ah to mean she must not leave even her bedroom.

2) SHAREE’AH – It is preferable to marry a virgin.

CULTURE – A) Muslims have turned that into an absolute ban against marrying a divorcee, unless the purpose of the marriage is to exploit her.

B) A virgin girl must be married as young and fragile as possible. The concept of say a 20 year-old virgin is lost on the population.

3) SHAREE’AH – A woman is advised to remain in her home.

CULTURE – Women have since been barred from participating in any event outside her home.

Some persons make a point of insulting, harassing and molesting any woman seen in public.

Disparaging remarks and assault are typically reserved for women and girls who do not partake of the negative vices – promiscuity, gossip, slander – in the community.

Participation in social vices automatically lifts the stay-at-home rule.

4) SHAREE’AH – A woman needs her husband’s consent to leave her home, in normal circumstances.

CULTURE – Muslims extend that to all circumstances, including emergencies, and a need for the permission of any of her father, brother, grandfather, uncle in anything she does outside her home.

5) SHAREE’AH – She cannot give her hand in marriage; that has to be done by a male guardian.

CULTURE – Muslims derive that a man, any man can override her decisions. In fact, according to some, a woman should not make any decision on her life.

6) SHAREE’AH – She should wear a Hijab in the presence of males who are not her close relations.

CULTURE – Muslims have added her mature sons to the list of men who should not see her unless she is dressed in Hijab.

This is especially so should she be a woman who wears Niqab.

7) SHAREE’AH – The voice of a woman should not be heard in the Masjid (Mosque) during Salah (Prayers).

CULTURE – Her voice must not be heard at all in any circumstance, in or outside the Masjid.

8) SHAREE’AH – To obtain a divorce through her right of khul’a, a woman returns her dowry to her spouse.

CULTURE – She cannot nullify her marriage without presenting her reasons to and receiving the approval of a judge [2].

9) SHAREE’AH – She receives automatic custody of children below the age of seven [3], provided she does not remarry.

CULTURE – She is completely denied custody of her children.

10) Men are restricted from denying their wives access to attend the Masjid, i.e. no husband should prevent his wife from going to the Masjid.

Some communities have circumvented that by constructing male-only Masajid.

In other words, even with her husband’s consent a woman still cannot participate in Masjid activities. The community have placed a ban on her entering the Masjid.

Better, men are absolved of the obligation to grant permission, as their wives will not seek permission to go to the Masjid – there is no Masjid in the first instance.

[1] May, as she can leave her home to attend important activities and for visitations. She however must spend each NIGHT in her home.

[2] In nations with a functional judiciary system, this may not be much of an issue so long as the woman obtains a stress-free divorce.

[3] Children above the age of seven choose which parent gains custody.


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