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At the age of eighteen, Aishah bint Abu Bakr was bereaved of her lover the Messenger of Allah who married her when she was nine after a three-year betrothal.

For nine spectacular years, she experienced the best of marriage with her loving spouse who frequently employed her thigh as his pillow.

Aishah’s marriage earned her – women and children in general – several benefits.

A) Although Muslims of our times are typically averse to love, Aishah’s marriage was one of two lovers.

Aishah was the most loved by the Prophet, not just among his wives, but in addition, among humanity.

B) Despite Aishah’s tender age, her parents, Abu Bakr and Umm Ruman, did not take advantage of her to advance some selfish interests.

C) Aishah was a most educated woman, with the full support of her husband.

Today, a woman of any age, let alone one of nine, risks becoming another illiterate, if she had not completed her education prior to marriage.

A man is empowered by the society of imbeciles to prevent his wife from acquiring education.

D) Aishah was a very strong and independent woman.

Her determination to seek redress and justice led her to a battle confrontation with Ali, the fourth Khaliph, in an attempt to settle the issue surrounding the assassination of Uthman, the third Khaliph. [1]

E) Even at the acme of the slander crisis against Aishah when the option of divorce was presented to the Prophet, her co-wife and first-grade rival, Zainab bint Jahsh upheld Aishah’s dignity and affirmed the latter’s innocence.

This is in contrast to the conduct of many a Muslim woman of today who easily lie to bury an innocent woman, purely out of rancour or to go with the flow, “for the good of the society”.

That ifk was a case of majority against one. The society is never wrong, is it?

It was a case of adults versus a very young woman. An adult is always right. What does a teenager know about truth?

It was a case of parents versus daughter. Parents must be obeyed. The daughter must never disagree with her parents.

It was a case of husband versus wife. The husband has the right of abuse.

A woman must cooperate with forces working against her wellbeing.

History informs none of the above was the case.

When Aishah was vindicated by Allah and her parents instructed her to show deference to her husband, she refused.

A woman, girl, or child has a unique identity, independent of parents, husband or societal wishes.

F) Aishah was an advocate of women and children’s rights.

On certain occasions, she came head on with Umar, the second Khaliph over women’s issues.

Once, she opposed and successfully prevented him from enacting a law placing an upper limit to the amount of mahr (dowry) a woman can demand.

Fourteen centuries later, there is still no upper limit to mahr.

Thank you, Aishah. Allah is pleased with you.

She censured another Companion of the Prophet for, mistakenly, equating a woman to shaytan.

So resolved to be in charge of her life was Aishah that she severed relations with her nephew who had contemplated declaring her incapable of handling her financial matters. [2]

She called on men to spend quality time with their spouse and attend to the playful needs of their young wife.

She was an authority on women’s personal and physiological issues.

G) Aishah was a woman of thought. Her capacity to critical analysis was outstanding.

Not only did she have a powerful mastery of the letter of the Sharee’ah, but she also understood the meanings and spirit of the Qur’an and the Sunnah.

Aishah conveyed her precious and profound knowledge to her male [3] and female students.

Aishah was an authority on the Sharee’ah.

Aishah’s versatility and influence are durable.

[1] After a truce to prevent further bloodshed of Muslims, Ali assigned Abdur-Rahman, Aishah’s brother to escort her home.

There exists a prohibition against

i] Muslims fighting each other.

ii] criticising the Companions of the Prophet and his family.

[2] AbdAllah bin Az-Zubair, the Governor and Aishah’s nephew, pleaded for forgiveness over this matter and was, eventually, pardoned by Aishah.

[3] This will, no doubt, be a surprise to many of my akada, accustomed to men teaching women.

Women throughout the history of Islam had male students. Some even taught their own husband.


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