Thoughts Lead To Appreciation
The extent to which intrusive individuals are determined to impose their personal beliefs on others is manifested when such women hold positions of authority.
A few months ago, a statement was issued to censor interactions between opposite genders. The letter went further to instruct the community not to share their email addresses with the opposite gender. While others chorused the usual “Aameen” to the Du’a (Supplication) that marked the end of the pronouncement, I enquired the reasons behind the statement.
The response was that students had complained of such interactions. I was not the only one incensed. A woman protested that those who do not want to observe such interactions should simply abstain from mixed-gender groups. I added my opposition and made clear that those who are more comfortable in their glass cases should remain there and should not obstruct the interactions of the rest of us.
The response of the moderators was to unplug the entire conversation. AlhamduliLlah (Praise is to Allah), Allah provided two more opportunities for me to give them a piece of my mind. No one should treat us as minors and silence us. Women cannot afford to remain silent while others gradually erode our life into a tasteless existence.
In refutation of the personal beliefs of these women and their male supporters, there is no prohibition against male-female interactions. There is however severe warnings against those who engage in gossip and back-biting, two trademarks – in addition to intimidation and gang- running – of those who demand the rest of us comply with their intrusions into our affairs.
The Prophet and his Sahaba (Companions) interacted with women who were neither their wives nor their relations (mahram). Throughout Islamic civilization, such interactions existed within the provisions of the Sharee’ah, until women chose that their voices and their very existence were not to be witnessed by a man and that any woman who fails to comply be murdered for violation of a man’s ‘honour’!
Dishonour murders, as it aptly should be called for any man who ties his honour to a woman’s bra let alone takes pride in the murder of a woman has no semblance of honour, is the enforcement of this no-male zone on women and girls, the same women who are the mothers of the men; talk of a woman giving birth to her oppressor.
I shall not delve into the non-sexist nature of dishonour murder in this article. Sufficient are these words: women are neck-deep in the encouragement and enforcement of such anti-women practices and cultures.
How does a woman consider interactions with good men disrespectful to her person when the same woman insists on not knowing the difference between her right hand and her left without the permission of a man?
Within the Sharee’ah, the discouragement of male-female interactions is to prevent illicit sexual relations which are deplorable and of immense consequences to an individual’s Faith. Shaytan (satan) continuously strives to mislead humanity, but achieves his aim only with the active cooperation of humanity.
Simply put: Whoever fears for herself should not proceed with such interactions. The problem is that such women do not stop there but go further to harass other women into compliance.
Speaking of shaytan, where was he and his tribe of menace when Aishah our mother and the wife of the Prophet was stranded alone with a man? Was shaytan on vacation? Was he relaxing on a beach in Hawaii getting a tan? Where was he that he missed the opportunity – assuming that our actions are merely the actions of shaytan – to cause the worst crisis in human history? He was busy as usual, but this time he did not disturb Aishah or her male companion. Shaytan sought comfort in the minds of those who insinuated that man plus woman necessarily equals sex.
And why did that male Companion of the Prophet assist her when he observed her in the middle of the desert alone, assuming that man plus woman was necessarily equal to sex? Why did he not leave her there and ride off to fetch her husband or her father Abu Bakr? Why do we not read that in Ahadeeth books, so that by the time Aishah’s male relations returned for her they would have found her carried off into slavery by some adventurous Badu or devoured by a marauding lion?
Allah Himself exonerated our mother and her companion and by that all who are falsely accused of the unthinkable while He condemned those who did not keep their mouths shut and criticised those who heard of the slander but did not immediately reject it.
Allah Akbar! Indeed Allah is The Greatest!